Family

presidential pardons

There's a turkey farm not too far from my parents' house. All autumn long, there are hundreds (thousands?) of white turkeys roaming the field. The day after Thanksgiving, however, the field is empty. Not a bird to be found. A moment of silence is required when we drive by...

Each year, my dad jokes about springing the turkeys -- freeing them before they become centerpieces on dinner tables. Of course, we never do. This year, we at least paid these rather unbecoming birds homage by taking their pictures.


Although we didn't spare any of our local turkeys from their doomed fate, I take pleasure in knowing that our President will pardon a few...

Happy Thanksgiving!

day with dad

My dad and I went out for lunch yesterday. To Costco. It's been a long time since I've strolled the aisles of Costco with Dad, enjoying a "meal" of free sample foods. Aaah, good times...

We ventured from there to our local grocery store. As we walked down the toiletry aisle, there was an elderly gentleman perusing the shampoo items. As Dad sauntered by, the guy called out for assistance.

Old Man: "Excuse me. Do you know which one of these is a shampoo for men?"

Dad: "Uh... I think Head & Shoulders is for that."


Dad & I in Ballito, South Africa
Christmas 2004

plate tectonics & mi casa

Niel and I have grown further apart...

We "fell back" an hour for Daylight Savings Time, and South Africa did not -- "moving" Niel an extra hour away from me. The time difference between us is now 7 hours instead of 6. I know it seems as though that one extra hour shouldn't matter, but it does! I much prefer it when we're only 6 hours apart.

In spite of the time difference and the ocean between us, Niel and I are able to stay more in touch than we normally have in situations like this. Our high-speed internet and Vonage phone have made the world seem smaller. I'm grateful that we've been able to talk on the phone just about everyday since he's been gone.

In spite of missing Niel and my family-of-friends back in South Africa, I'm enjoying my extra time on Long Island. (By the way, for those wondering: the island truly is long: 120 miles in length and only 20 in width, at its widest part.)

It's wonderful to be staying with my parents in their new home! It's a long story, and it's been a long journey, but, suffice it to say, our new home tells a tale of restoration. As I enjoy the many things I love about our house (more than one bathroom, for starters!), I thank God for His hand on our lives...

plate tectonics & mi casa

Niel and I have grown further apart...

We "fell back" an hour for Daylight Savings Time, and South Africa did not -- "moving" Niel an extra hour away from me. The time difference between us is now 7 hours instead of 6. I know it seems as though that one extra hour shouldn't matter, but it does! I much prefer it when we're only 6 hours apart.

In spite of the time difference and the ocean between us, Niel and I are able to stay more in touch than we normally have in situations like this. Our high-speed internet and Vonage phone have made the world seem smaller. I'm grateful that we've been able to talk on the phone just about everyday since he's been gone.

In spite of missing Niel and my family-of-friends back in South Africa, I'm enjoying my extra time on Long Island. (By the way, for those wondering: the island truly is long: 120 miles in length and only 20 in width, at its widest part.)

It's wonderful to be staying with my parents in their new home! It's a long story, and it's been a long journey, but, suffice it to say, our new home tells a tale of restoration. As I enjoy the many things I love about our house (more than one bathroom, for starters!), I thank God for His hand on our lives...

banana split

We split up.

Thrown in the towel on this "staying together" business. Said farewell to each other and went our separate ways. Niel hopped on a plane and left me behind. We've officially split up.

That's how rumors get started, ya know. That's how they have gotten started. Twice already on this USA trip, Niel and I have "split up"--he's gone one direction and I've gone another. When people asked Niel where I was, he told them, "We split up, and she's in Seattle while I'm here." Their puzzled looks and quizzical expressions were lost on Niel until someone finally said, "I think they think you literally split up--as in separated... en-route to divorce."

So let me clarify. When I say that Niel and I have split up what I mean is:

We are physically residing in two different locations on the planet for the time being.

Niel left today (as planned!) to head back to South Africa. He'll be there until the Sunday after Thanksgiving. I am staying in New York: spending time with my parents, working on ministry projects, and eagerly awaiting my husband's return. When Niel comes back, we'll be Stateside--together!--through early January.

Before Niel left today, we had a few minutes to walk down to the beach for the first time since we got home. My parents live only a few blocks away from the Long Island Sound. The water was so still and peaceful today; it was absolutely beautiful. We walked a bit and took some pictures. It was brief, but special.


I'm looking forward to having Niel back in 39 days! Splitting up sucks!

man of the year

Yesterday Niel and I celebrated our six-year wedding anniversary. In spite of the crazy week, we were able to go out for dinner last night.


What I love about Niel:

  • His strength (he was my rock this week!)
  • His visionary, big-pictureness
  • His passion to transform Africa
  • His fun goofyness and sense of humor
  • His beautiful eyes
  • His big smile and huge laugh when he's really laughing about something

I love you all the way to the moon and back, Hombre...

a mother's heart

We flew into New York on Sunday evening. On Wednesday, we were scheduled to fly out to Dallas. Tuesday morning, we finalized our decision to cancel the Texas trip and spent the day making all the necessary phone calls and "cancellation arrangements". Thus, we found ourselves still at home in Wading River with my mom on Wednesday. (My dad had left on Monday morning for a business trip.)

I am so glad we didn't go to Texas!

Wednesday afternoon my mom was gripping her chest because of severe pains. A 911 call, ambulance ride, and thirty minutes later, we were in the Emergency Room of a local hospital. My mom was admitted and has been in the hospital until today. After a myriad of tests, they determined that she did not have a heart attack. We're going to be following up with a cardiologist to figure out the cause of the chest pains, but in the meantime we are grateful for mom's health and her discharge from the hospital.

My mom and I always have a good time together, resulting in lots of laughs. This is true even of our time in the hospital. A few hours in, something funny happened--to which my mom remarked, "That's blog material right there!" She also said that we should have brought the camera so we could have a picture to go along with the blog post. I laughed because I figure if I had made that suggestion, she'd have whacked me one! Anyway, don't worry, this blog post is mother-approved!

One funny moment (amidst the un-funny situation taking place) occurred while we were still in the ER. The worst was over and we found ourselves just waiting. Mom was hooked up to all sorts of monitors as well as an IV drip, but she was feeling okay. She was in good spirits and cracking jokes, so I knew she was really feeling much better than just an hour before. To pass the time as we just sat there waiting, I started to read the poster on the wall. It was full of medical jargon--long, unpronounceable words that I had no idea the meaning of.

I commented to mom, "I can't read half the words on this thing!" To which she answered, "That's because it's in Spanish, Alece!" When she looked again and realized it was in fact English, we laughed really hard. So hard in fact, that the nice, evenly-flowing-up-and-down line on mom's heart monitor started racing wildly all over the screen. Inevitably, that led to even more laughter.

There is much I am thankful for about the past few days. I am grateful that we canceled our Texas trip and were home when this all began. I won't even think about what may have happened if no one had been home with mom at the time...

I am also thankful that I am in America, where a 911 phone call had an ambulance at our house within 5 minutes (a luxury I am not granted in South Africa). There are numbers that can be dialed to reach medical services, but they are not as simple as "9-1-1" and, at least where I live, it would take MUCH more than 5 minutes to get a response.

Which reminds me, months ago Niel, Dave, and I were up in Johannesburg and had some time to go watch a movie. About halfway in, the guy next to me started having some type of seizure. He began shaking violently, with his eyes rolled back, and was completely unresponsive. His girlfriend/wife started shouting for someone to do something. As Niel ran out to get help and I joined the lady in shaking the guy's arms, the people in the row behind us starting telling us to "Shush!". I guess they didn't realize the situation and thought we were just being chit-chatty.

I looked back at them and, in my panic, shouted loudly, "It's an emergency! Someone call nine-one-o...Nevermind, we don't even have that here!" As I shook my head in frustration, not knowing what to shout when my instinctive "Call 911" was wrong, the guy came to and was totally fine.

Anyway, I am just grateful that on Wednesday, when I told Niel, "Call 911", we actually "had that here".

And I am very grateful my mom is okay!

Please Note: This picture was not taken in or near the hospital.
It was taken on our Alaskan vacation. I did not give in to mom's request to bring a camera into the hospital. I knew she'd regret having asked me once she saw the picture on my blog!

speechless in seattle

I feel as though I have so much to say yet no words with which to say it. My mom and I just returned to Seattle from our Alaskan cruise; I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful our trip was! We laughed incessantly and made so many amazing memories. We saw Humpback and Orca whales on our whale-watching trip, rode a train up to White Pass (high in the mountains), experienced a modified (no-snow) version of a dog-sled at a musher camp, stood in awe before enormous glaciers, and zip-lined across thousands of feet of cable 150 feet above the ground!

Most who know me know that I easily get motion sick. Some have even had the unique privilege of seeing me...vomit. (Jealous, aren't you?!) I get this propensity for nausea from my mother. But thanks to the amazing motion-sickness patch, we were both puke-free all week! The first night on the ship was pretty rocky. At breakfast the next morning, we overheard countless people saying that they got sick during the night because of how rough it was. Mom and I threw our fists in the air in victory: "WE LOVE THE PATCH!"

My mom is a joy and a blessing in my life and I am so grateful to the Lord for this time we had together. Many thanks, also, to my hombre and padre for sending us! This was truly a time we will never forget!

We were asked by dozens of people if we were sisters (which hopefully means that my mom looks young for her age and not that I look old for mine!). While we know we resemble one another, we definitely don't see the close similarity so many others saw!

I uploaded a bunch of our photos, if you want to take a peek!

queen

We spent some time with my "little brother" yesterday. I put "little brother" in quotes because Andrew's really not all that little anymore. In fact, he turned 21 last week! But seeing as he's 7 years younger than me, he'll always be my little brother.

For Christmas, my parents gave him my mom's old car. It's a Saturn, Homecoming Edition, and my mom always called it the Homecoming Queen. Yesterday Andrew mentioned that he still calls it that--affectionately referring to it as "The Queen"--even though some of his friends make fun of him.

I suggested that he now call it The Car Formerly Known as Queen.

Sneak Peak at our Cape Escape

The first week of our trip we stayed in Langebaan, 100+ kilometers outside of Cape Town up the west coast. The harbor at our resort was so picturesque.
We went out on an evening boat cruise; in the back left is the resort we stayed at.
Our friend Deon enjoyed a Titanic moment on the boat.
Niel and Deon went on a high-speed boat trip. It was only 15 minutes long but was pretty fast and wild!
My dear hombre endured the front row of The Cobra, just for me! (Only 60 seconds long, but also fast and wild!)
The guys went out fishing one day and (surprise, surprise!) actually came back with some fish!
Cape Town's famous Table Mountain

Random Bits & Bites

We got home from our Cape Escape today; as is typical of a vacation, it went by way too quickly. We had a great time and while I definitely got to rest and relax, I still feel as though I need another few weeks off! Being sick sucks, but being sick on vacation REALLY sucks. First it was Niel, and then my dear husband decided to pass the sickness on to me. No amount of preemptive vitamins helped; I was walloped with a nasty sore throat, which developed into an obnoxious cold. Yuck. I'm finally approaching the light at the end of the tunnel and am crawling out of the yucky sickness hole.

Red nail polish changes things. I was treated to a pedicure this past week and I got bright red nail polish on my toes. (I wasn't yet bold enough to go for it on my fingers!) Walking around with my scarlet toe nails has been quite amazing. I've noticed myself peeking down at my toes way more than usual (not that I usually even do!); it almost makes me feel more feminine. Can red nail polish really do that?

On Monday we went to Ratanga Junction, the only "real" amusement/theme park in South Africa. Niel and I had gone once before, when we were in Cape Town for our honeymoon. This time, it was an "off" time of year and barely anybody was there. Roller coasters that we waited for 2 hours to ride last time had no waits at all -- very nice! A bit scared of heights, Niel doesn't really like roller coasters; his love was very evident as he rode with me in the very front of The Cobra,the biggest roller coaster in the park...

We made a few stops at New York Bagel, one of my favorite places for breakfast and lunch in Cape Town. We even bought a dozen bagels to bring home with us... mmmm!

We returned home to cold weather. Winter has definitely set in with full force. A daily challenge in my life here is the lack of indoor heating. We thankfully have space heaters, but even on full blast they barely make a dent in the penetrating cold. Seeing my breath while sitting in bed is something I will just never get used to.

Thanks for the comments on my Hiatus post... I'll blog with more thoughts soon.

Random Bits & Bites

We got home from our Cape Escape today; as is typical of a vacation, it went by way too quickly. We had a great time and while I definitely got to rest and relax, I still feel as though I need another few weeks off! Being sick sucks, but being sick on vacation REALLY sucks. First it was Niel, and then my dear husband decided to pass the sickness on to me. No amount of preemptive vitamins helped; I was walloped with a nasty sore throat, which developed into an obnoxious cold. Yuck. I'm finally approaching the light at the end of the tunnel and am crawling out of the yucky sickness hole.

Red nail polish changes things. I was treated to a pedicure this past week and I got bright red nail polish on my toes. (I wasn't yet bold enough to go for it on my fingers!) Walking around with my scarlet toe nails has been quite amazing. I've noticed myself peeking down at my toes way more than usual (not that I usually even do!); it almost makes me feel more feminine. Can red nail polish really do that?

On Monday we went to Ratanga Junction, the only "real" amusement/theme park in South Africa. Niel and I had gone once before, when we were in Cape Town for our honeymoon. This time, it was an "off" time of year and barely anybody was there. Roller coasters that we waited for 2 hours to ride last time had no waits at all -- very nice! A bit scared of heights, Niel doesn't really like roller coasters; his love was very evident as he rode with me in the very front of The Cobra,the biggest roller coaster in the park...

We made a few stops at New York Bagel, one of my favorite places for breakfast and lunch in Cape Town. We even bought a dozen bagels to bring home with us... mmmm!

We returned home to cold weather. Winter has definitely set in with full force. A daily challenge in my life here is the lack of indoor heating. We thankfully have space heaters, but even on full blast they barely make a dent in the penetrating cold. Seeing my breath while sitting in bed is something I will just never get used to.

Thanks for the comments on my Hiatus post... I'll blog with more thoughts soon.

Baby Steps

Niel has always dreamed of having a yacht. He already has a name picked out -- Outreach. Odd name for a boat, you say? Well, it makes it possible to use the boat more often when it has the name Outreach -- because when someone calls or visits the office looking for Niel, we can truthfully say, "Sorry, he's out on Outreach; can he call you when he gets back?" or "Niel is out on Outreach for another few weeks; call again next month." Perfect. Well, we go from glory to glory and in the same way, we often take baby steps towards our dreams. Someone in our town just gave us a boat. It's nowhere near a yacht or Niel's ultimate dream boat, but we now have a boat. It's red, made for fishing, and has two motors; that is where my boat-knowledge ends. We are excited to have it and plan to make good use of it.

On Saturday we took all the staff out with the boat to Sterkfontein Dam (third largest dam in all of South Africa -- basically an enormous lake). We went dam-exploring in the boat, tubing (great fun!), and... sun-burning. Yep -- most of us got more sun than we'd planned on or really desired. No, I'm not blushing...

We still need a name for our boat. Niel says we shouldn't name it since it's not THE boat yet (kind of like not naming the pig you're going to make bacon out of next year?!); but I think it needs a name. Naming it is not conceding that you've reached the pinnacle of boat-ownership, it just means you've given the baby-step-glory-to-glory-in-between boat a name. Now, all we need is a good name... (Feel free to offer suggestions!)

We are really blessed to even have the boat. It is wonderful to be able to enjoy the remaining weeks (hopefully months!) of summer with our staff family and friends on the boat. We are looking forward to many more boating expeditions -- and will surely pack stronger sunblock next time!

Lingering Christmas

So Niel went to the post office today to strong-arm the postmaster into finding our packages from Mom... No, really, he just went to enquire about them, but strong-arm seemed a much better verb...

He ended up coming home with 3 of the 4 boxes my mom sent. I freaked out when I saw them -- and we had a lot of fun going through them all!

The best part was what my mom said when I told her they came. "I'm just sorry the one with all the presents hasn't arrived yet..." So these three boxes of gifts weren't reeeeallllly presents - they were just pre-presents -- hors d’oeuvres, so to speak. I can't wait for the next one. I'll take Box #4, Bob!

Going Picnicking

I bought a hat the other day - a cute blue and yellow one. My mom always tells me I'm a hat person, so I figured I'd give it a go... This morning, the plan was to just lounge around at home - and I dressed accordingly. Shorts and my "beach shirt" - a pink and darker-pink striped shirt that Niel bought me with the help of one of my friends in Michigan. Around 1:30, Niel and I ended up needing to drive some of the staff into town; as we were heading out the door, I grabbed my new hat and added it to my already looking-great-for-town ensemble.

Just as we were leaving, Niel's mom came by to ask us something. She interrupted herself when she saw me in my getup and asked, "Oh, are you guys going picnicking?!" Niel and I burst out laughing...and have continued laughing about it all day!