You were every bit thirteen: skinny as a rail, brace-face smile, unbelievably shy, uncomfortable in your own skin. But from the first moment you learned what a mission trip was, you wanted to go on one. As soon as you hit the minimum-required age, you signed up for a trip to Central America.
Funds needed to be raised, of course, and you got to the hard work of raising them. You baked. Babysat. Washed cars. Wrote letters. Your small, zealous church was puzzled, but supportive. You remember that church, don’t you? The one that met in the American Legion Hall, with children’s church in the hallway and nursery in the coat closet? They readily celebrated the gifts of the Spirit, but didn’t really have much concern about “going into all the nations.” But now, one of their own was wanting to “go.” And this—this—they could get behind.
You made a poster board map masterpiece with a movable airplane to track your progress as you raised support that would get you to Managua, Nicaragua. With sweaty palms and a shaky voice, you got up in front of the church and shared your desire to serve in a foreign land. Your nervousness was met with happy cheering, a side hug from your pastor, and encouragement from those who saw what a big step this was.
Your pastor took up a “love offering” for you. (You still laugh at that phrase.) And he did that every week for a month, with the church collecting all the funds to pass along before your financial deadline. You were blown away by the generosity of your tiny church family of tongue-talking misfits. Then when the time came for the funds to be sent to the missions organization, you made a painful discovery.
Your pastor decided to spend the money himself. There was nothing left for you. Nothing left for Nicaragua.
You were thirteen.
You were every bit nineteen: no longer skinny as a rail, curves had finally begun to find you. You laughed loudly and often, with a flannel shirt perpetually tied around your waist. Fresh out of a year-long missions internship, you had your sights set on Africa. You had six months to work, save, and raise money to move overseas.
Having graduated from the tiny Christian school at your church (a very different church from your previous one), your pastor knew you well—after all, he’d doubled as your Bible and pre-Calculus teacher. You loved him and the way he made you (and everyone else in the church) feel like family. And you knew he loved you too. He would beam with pride when he’d spontaneously pull you up on stage during a service to brag on something you’d done or said. You hated it and loved it all at the same time.
So when he said you were making a bad decision by pursuing missions, you were caught off guard. He told you that doing mission work was a waste of your time and skills, that you “could do so much better,” and that you “could do anything you wanted.” Of course you cried (as you always do when speaking about things of the heart) when you told him that contrary to his perception, you weren’t resigning yourself to missions out of some strange sense that it’s all you could do—but that it was, in fact, exactly what you wanted to give your life for.
Many tears and conversations later, your pastor agreed in the value of going to Africa “for a year, and then we’ll see….” He went so far as to commit to covering your monthly support in exchange for you volunteering full-time in the church office until you left for Africa. (You can’t help but roll your eyes at your 19-year-old self, stressed over raising $400 a month. You’d eventually be raising half a million dollars.)
So you spent those six months working as his assistant. It was a rocky road, that season of church work—like the time you had to challenge his integrity and stand up for your own when he asked you to write his thesis paper—but you worked hard, and kept your eyes on Africa.
And then came your last week in the office, when he told you he’d changed his mind. “I decided we’ll only cover half of your support. The church will give you $200 a month.” Amid tears, confusion, and disappointment, you reminded him that this whole arrangement had been based on them supporting your full amount.
“Well, it’ll be your word against mine, so…”
You were nineteen.
You are every bit thirty-five: still pretty uncomfortable in your own skin (which now curves in all the wrong places), but you also still laugh loudly and often. And, by the grace of God, you still somehow love Jesus, despite a lifetime of being taken advantage of by those who carry His name.
And that has to count for something on the Sundays you can’t bring yourself to step foot inside a church.