Posted by: alece | June 2, 2008

everything and nothing

“Wanna go to the park?” Becca asks. “Sure!” I scurry to my room to put on my shoes. I’m barefoot. Well, Alece-barefoot: I’ve got only my socks on, which is barefoot enough for me.

We head outside and walk a few blocks. The sky is gorgeous. It’s after 7:00 but it’s still sunny. Now I remember what I love about American summers.

The park is small, but quaint. It’s right by the Milwaukee River. We walk straight to the swingset; I swing so high it actually scares me. I challenge Becca to jump off her swing, but really hope she doesn’t do it. She slows to a mediocre speed and leaps off dramatically. I giggle.

We end up on the merry-go-round. I wish the playground version wasn’t called the same thing as the large, ride-a-horse-up-and-down-while-listening-to-creepy-
carnival-music version. But it is.

I lay down on my back and look up at the sky; Becca gives us a good shove and hops on. The swirly sky makes my stomach do a somersault; I shut my eyes tightly and let out a lighthearted groan. Becca laughs at me. With my eyes shut, my tummy settles down.

We talk about everything and nothing, both of us laying on the merry-go-round, Becca peering at the clouds and sunset palette, me peering at the insides of my eyelids. Round and round we go, literally and figuratively, until the go-round comes to a stop; we debate over the actual timing of its stoppage. Becca gives us another push; we spin and talk and laugh some more.

It stops again, but we barely notice this time. Contentedly, we lie there. Our conversation is peppered with silence. Not the awkward kind, but the good kind that’s indicative of only the best of friendships.

The mosquitoes are out in full force. Now I remember what I hate about American summers. I’ve swatted, squashed, and shooed about a dozen already. I smack one on Becca’s arm. There was a skeeter, I promise! We decide we should head home.

We pick some dandelions as we walk. (I think there should be a different name for the soft, picturesque, gone-with-the-wind ones, so that you automatically know I’m not talking about the bright yellow jobs that older brothers do goofy things with.) We blow them and watch as they split into dozens of delicate pieces and float through the air like little parachuting men. Somehow this turns ugly, and we’re blowing dandelions into each other’s faces.

Suddenly we’re hurling each other around in an all-out wrestling match of sorts. We’re out of breath with laughter. That is the best out-of-breath-ness there is.

As the moon comes up, we head back inside.

I love everything-and-nothing friends.

Responses

I loved this story..It brought a smile to my face. I can picture you guys playing at a park. This story warmed my heart! :-) I love you Alece!!!

I loved reading this post. And I’m glad you have this everything-and-nothing friendship in Becca. It makes me smile knowing you’re having a wonderful time.

I’m glad you’re back.

:)

What a wonderful depiction of a picturesque evening.

Hehe.
I love you.

becca - did you find your easter egg?

makes me want to be 8 again and be penpals w/ you!

favorite statement: “Our conversation is peppered with silence. Not the awkward kind, but the good kind that’s indicative of only the best of friendships.” [that is such a great picture of my marriage!]

I like this one too! It made me feel like I was reading an excerpt from a nice book. Very warm and cozy! Just what I needed after this rough week! Any chance you have a copy of the full book for me?

cathi — did you have the impression that i was 8 when this happened?

faith — thank you for that wonderful compliment!

nope, just a great sense of nostalgia w/ the story…in my brain, there was a yellow hue hanging in the air. [that's the color of my memories, btw]

after i’d read your comment up there, i went back and re-read my post with the thought of me as an 8 year old. and you know, it was a fairly “childish” memory, in terms of our activities, so i could totally picture recalling something from way back then in similar fashion. i do know that i wouldn’t have seen the value in the friendship right before my eyes back in my kid-years. and to me that’s the best part of this whole memory. (which happened just days ago!)

Here in my 30s I would assume that a key to a happy life is to have the inhibitions of an eight year old with the wisdom of the outlook on the sunset falling on the horizon of your lifeline as that of an eighty year old.

That perspective may change as I age. The actual key may be to choose to enjoy yourself where you are at - no matter your age or the expectation of those around you.

Whatever the key is I think you found it that day.

mmmm…. indeed i did, angie!

Hi! What a fun story… :) Mosquitos are a pain, but we’ve learned if you spray Listerine around when you’re outside, it keeps EVERYTHING away…best insect repellant I’ve found! Anyway, also, our son Mike is coming home for the month of July before he is deployed in September. Wanted to let you know that for Africa purposes, but Jer and I are VERY interested. We are praying and know it will be in His timing…love to you! :)

debs - listerine, eh?! i’d never have thought of that. i’ll have to keep that little trick in mind.

thanks for letting me know about july. and i’m glad that mike will be home for a month before deployment. that will be so great for your heart, i’m sure.

Ha! That Listerine comment made me think of the movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” and the father that used window cleaner for everything. I am LingOL! :-)

“bunnnnntttt cake”

“Vwat!? He doesn’t eat meat!? Dats ok. I’ll make lamb.”

ha ha. there are so many funny parts in that movie.

:-) Yes. Hey - where in the world are you now? Iowa?

“bobopsy” - oh boy… that gets me every time.

i’m in the great state of iowa.

“I-O-Way” - did ya ever see Music Man? Love that movie. :-)

Yeah for Iowa! Yeah for the people who live in Iowa! Yeah for the baby that will be born in Iowa and then whisked away to the other side of the planet! Such exciting ventures…

i-o-way?!?! never saw music man!

and yes — everyday, dave asks amy, “is baby coming today?”

we’re hoping for soon!

*sniff*
This was a great post! I love it. I wish for days like that. And I wish for friends like that here. I miss that a lot since we moved here…..friends who just “know” you.

I’ve always said that the best relationships/friendships are those where you don’t HAVE TO talk. You can enjoy being quiet together.

One of my favorite things to do with Jake, sit and be quiet. HA!! B/c it happens so rarely in this house. :shock:

crap. I forgot you don’t have emoticons. *sigh*

Where is my brain? ;-)

i hear you, brandy. i miss that, too. it was a rare treat for me to have 10 days with my close friend. and now i’m with another friend for 3 weeks (she’s having a baby any day now!). i’m being spoiled.

and then i’ll head back to africa, and leave most of them here, an ocean away.

:sniff:

that’s okay. i still like seeing/hearing your sound effects!

Oh! Well seeing as you are in Iowa it might be advantageous of you to learn a bit of the culture of the land and rent that musical extravaganza of the 60s. It’s a great old fashioned family show. I think you might like it.

(Ha! Look at me giving unsolicited advice. :-) )

tsk, tsk…

sounds fun. i’ll have to see if we can rent it.

Aww sounds like a wonderful time. I’m so glad you had the opportunity to do that before you go back to Africa. I praise God for your strength and patience in this journey of leaving loved ones behind to serve God. Enjoy this time with your friend! LOVE YOU XOX

It was nice chatting with you. :-)

ayles - thank you… i *am* blessed!

You know, sometimes this is my favorite voice (that you’ve written in).
I think it hooks the reader. Some may disagree, but Anderson Cooper likes to write this way too. And I think Anderson Cooper is gorgeous. So.

That’s all.

Haha…

you liked it? i thought about writing it like this days ago, and found it kind of challenging to do… which i enjoyed actually. it took so many revisions, though, because i was so inconsistent in my initial writing.

and being even remotely compared to anderson cooper is a way-huge compliment. so… thanks.

(sheepie!)

Yup, simply fabulous.

Ahhh! Becca was right. This was written so well. Made me wanna run to the playground :) And, yes…Cooper is amazing and pretty nice to look at too! Good call Becca.

ps. I agree w/ur comment on Sydney…. how awesome is she.

YES! Someone else thinks Anderson Cooper is hot. He’s premature gray…okay?!

Comment from Africa- Take 2 (the first one didn’t make it)…
I have had a random thought at random times lately and I think I am suppose to share…so here is as good a place as any….the thought?

“Alece should write a book”….not just because I think you are a good writer, but I think that maybe you are toying with the idea…so here I am just telling you that I think you should…and then if you do I can stop dreaming about selling your books at conferences and maybe the part of the dream where I got a date will be a reality! :)

comment from cleveland: I agree!!!!!!!

We all know that Alece will publish a book… but it is like making a hard boiled egg. If you take the egg out of the boiling water too soon you may have cooked the whites but the yoke will be all squishy and down right repulsive (no offense to those who love soft-boiled eggs). Alece is letting herself boil for a bit longer so that her material has the density that make biting into it a pleasure and not a disappointment.

I think you are a GREAT writer Alece. And you have the stamina and persistence to see through a project a monumental as a book.

You know - come to think of it - I should have used the analogy of a well aged wine that you don’t uncork until it is perfect. But usually the best wines take generations to age. And we want you to get on with writing that book in our lifetimes. So we will stick with the egg analogy. Next time some one calls you egg-head you can take is as a compliment. :-)

Becca Prematurely gray… my man is and he is so hot.

someone publish this lady.

stat!!!

aclece, this is such a phenomenally written post. I love every single word of it.

i want to be a kid again!!

Angie- do you remember me? We were on a mission trip together to Costa Rica in 1997….I was also a TL…:)

Thanks for taking me to the park today - I enjoyed the time - but next time don’t scare me on the swings - I am too old to jump out anymore!

ok, loved reading the comments, and I have to say @ngie, your illustration of hard boiled eggs was impressive! Spot-on! :)

I cannot believe you’ve not updated us on how wonderful Iowa is.

CHARLENE!!! - Oh my! Yes! :-) The world is a teeny tiny itsy bisty spec of a thing. I am sitting here looking a picture of you in my album from Costa Rica ‘97. Wow. I am impressed that you remembered me. And look where God has taken you. I love it! I peeked around at your webpage a bit. That is fabulous that you know what you aer called to be doing. Alece and Niel are very blessed to have a strong “Aaron” type person as an undergirding to strengthen them. Bless you!

Annie - How does the saying go? Creativity is the art of concealing your source. :-) So if I am to have you continue to think that I am creative I should not reveal my source - eh? My lips are sealed for I am enjoying basking in your sweet comment. :-)

i have to agree that anderson cooper is mcdreamy #2. that hair? those eyes? his excellent memoir just makes the whole package even more dreamy.

charlene — you’ve dreamed about selling my books at conferences and meeting your husband? what’s he look like? it’s not don miller is it? (and thank you for the very sweet remark about my book writing ability…)

angie — so i’m like wine (getting better with age) and eggs (although my sunnyside isn’t usually up). thank you, dear friend.

tam — you made me smile huge. thank you!

IL Papa — i’m glad you felt like you were there with me; that is a victory right there…

danielle — i’m developing your virtue… patience, my dear, patience.

all and anyone interested — i really appreciate all the encouraging and kind comments about my writing. thank you, thank you! someday i’d like to write a book. i’ve been reading all sorts of memoirs lately to learn more about how to write a book of that nature. when i really stop to think about writing one of my own someday, my most looming thought is what exactly will i write about? i know i’ve lived in africa for 10 years, but … i guess in a lot of ways i don’t feel like i have much of a story to tell. i’m not saying this to sound self-deprecating in any way, just being honest with where i’m at. where would i start? what would people really want to read about? what in my life — in God’s story of my life — is worth sharing? i’m not sure just yet. in the meantime, i’ll keep blogging.

Alece- Nope…though I still like Don as a writer, not sure we agree on much else ;). Yeah, I had a very interesting dream…we actually weren’t selling your books, but were promoting Thrive and the lady told me that we SHOULD have a book and I immediately thought that we will! :)

And I met this cute guy and he asked me out on a date while you were about to speak…so I asked you if you minded if I missed your big speaking engagment to go on the date! :) HA! You were very gracious and said yes….so funny. The other strange thing is that the guy’s name was “Duke”….odd, I know. So, maybe I will marry royalty!

i heard him speak again on this trip. and i was even more convinced of my dislike for him. (for shame.)

so you skipped out on hearing me speak so you could go on a hot date with duke?! geeeeeez….

the parachuting dandelions made me remember parachuter dan in his little sharpie colored on speedo super suit.. fun times off table mountain eh?

honestly, i would like to read all the comments and keep up on conversation. but i got to the fact that you’re in iowa, and i got a little sad. so close to my home, and so far away from where i am. :\
someday, ‘lece.
but this story was A.MAZING.

It is great that you still let the eight year old Alece come out and play. What good friends you and Becca have remained. I think you have good friends because you are such a great person to know.

I can’t think of a better way to spend the day, unless it is “exercising” with your hubby. :)

First things:

Anderson Cooper is so HOT!!

Okay Alece, this took this 41 yr old back into my childhood and I actually had a little tear dribbling not out of sadness, but out of happiness, I love the fact that we can be friends in the silence, be friends blowing dandelions, and wrestling under the summer night.

How Awesome is that!!

I need to make a phone call tonight to my special friend. Thanks Alece and yes get this published!!!

Loving ya

hannah — aaah… parachuter dan. that memory makes me smile, inside and out.

roo — i know… so close and yet still so far. ::sniff sniff::

ed — your comment has planted a grin on your face. your wording made it seem that you think becca and i have been friends since we were kids; we’ve only been friends for a year. but i feel the same way you thought — it truly seems like we’ve known each other much longer. our history, though short, is rich and wonderful. she’s a great friend. (and yes, exercising with my husband is a fantastic past time! and about the only exercise i like!)

heidi — i was so blessed to hear you felt inspired to call your friend. how was the phone call?!

I feel like I’m reading the likes of Jodi Picoult. You are gifted- and this post was beautiful, fun, refreshing… loved it!

kitty - i gasped. you heard it. since i’m–ya know–on the neighboring couch. jodi picoult is one of my all-time favorite authors. to be compared to her is… woah.

thank you!

alece … where in iowa? i would drive a few long hours to meet you in person. it really seems like just around the corner!

and, i loved reading the merry-go-round post! i totally relate to closing your eyes while laying down on it, too! can’t spin in circles anymore since the time i was about six and my brother and his friends wouldn’t let me off when i was feeling sick.

glad to hear you are getting some special time with friends.

roo’s mom

i’m in iowa city with my friend who’s about ready to have her baby! how far are you from here?

i get motion sick so easily. i wish i didn’t; i could get so much done (or read) if i could work in a car.

I really enjoyed this post. I also enjoyed all of the memories of good times with friends that it reminded me of.

thanks, natalie…

The phone call was a 1 hour marathon. But, it was filled with Hope, releasing some crud, and tears, silence and laughter and mending fences but Most of all love.

Thank you Alece.

P.S. This friend I haven’t talk to for over a year, over some “spilled milk”. All is good and God now.

wow, heidi. my heart is brimming right now. i’m so glad that God used this to “nudge” you to call her, and that things have been mended between you two. He is the amazing restorer of all things.

thank you for sharing that with me!

What a great read! Made me remember the time in college my boyfriend and I were at the top of the jungle gym and he proposed…

Thanks.

did that boyfriend become your husband?!?!

No thank you.. for reminding me that without REAL friendships are from God.

Oops..

For reminding me that Real Friendships are from God.

I’m sorry I’m tired and waiting for the laundry to wash. It’s my blonde roots and those sill celery sticks on my diet.

they definitely are from Him. they are gifts i hold closely and treasure dearly.

(celery sticks, eh?!)

They are totally rotting my brain…

I need a BIG MAC with a Strawberry shake :)!!

you could at least eat some strawberries… ????

Yeah… I had a piece of cake today. My other friend got her 2 year sobriety today..

So if I start eating sweet than I go overboard. I lost 12 lbs in 3 weeks and I on a role.

I cannot have strawberries without chocolate and or sugar :)

was your piece of cake to celebrate your friend’s sobriety? that’s a wonderful reason for cake.

12 pounds in 3 weeks?! that’s incredible. what’s your goal?

My first goal is 55 pounds.

It was an awesome reason for cake!!!

wow. you’ve challenged and inspired me. keep on keeping on! even though those celery sticks give you typos.

Michelle: Drew proposed to me while i was sitting on top of the monkey bars.
he finally got down on one knee about two weeks ago… five and a half years later.
i just threw back my head & laughed!!!

Heidi: wow. for so many reasons. wow.

Alece: HI!!!

mandy — how sweet that drew proposed to you atop the monkey bars! and that he just got down on his knee a few weeks ago. you’ve got a great man.

Hours later…sorry, busy day…

yes, he became my husband. And I know you girls love your husbands, but you have NO IDEA what an amazing man I snagged!

It was a fort-type platform so he was able to get down on one knee - he was dreamy…

25 years later he’s still my dream come true. ;)

mom i have NEVER heard that story! wow. that explains a lot of comments over the years when we’re out spinning ourselves dizzy on the tire swing, etc.
alece wow, it would be great if y’all could get together at some point. wish i weren’t stuck. iowa city is closer to mi madre, but if i had the time, i’d drive all the way to visit, too. two ruwes at once??? oh, NO. ;)

mandy and michelle these are great stories!!!

michelle – but i do have an idea what an amazing woman your husband snagged!

roo — two ruwes at once would be too much? i think i’d love it, in fact!

It’s October 13th today, I came back here to read this. I remember this is the post that built our foundation of our friendship….

I’m glad were are friends and confidantes..

Really miss you today…. I need write you an email.

Let me stroll the beach first.. :)

Love you friend. You are in Sicily now..

Soak in.. Embrace.. Feel Gran.

i feel like “this is where we first met” kinda thing. i love it!

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